I was not a woman who had a biological clock. I said to myself, if I dont have kids by 35 I was fine. God had other plans. I met the father of my children. Crazy enough, 6 months later we were pregnant! You know, I actually told him when we met, "I dont think I can get pregnant." Neither here, nor there, I have two incredible young men now. I am grateful for it all.
It was 2 years ago that my oldest son met his girlfriend, she is amazing. The connection they have, and the love for one another is something every mother wants for her son. With that comes vurying levels of detachment, for a mom. The first is knowing that your life has shifted, as a mom. The girlfriend moves in as the woman in their life. Some moms have a very hard time with this, there are even movies about it, LOL. As a "conscious mom" I have not wanted to be the " movie mom" if that makes any sense at all. You eye up the girlfriends mom, thankfully she is pretty awesome. The relationship is going strong, you are so happy that your son has met someone that actually means something to them. They are dating, still living with you.
The movement changes, they are moving away, excited to create a life together. Now you know at this point it is about support, and encouragement. It wasn't until this very weekend when I realized I was still hanging on to my "child" but he is a young man. Cameron said, " Mom, I need to get home to my family (meaning his girlfriend, breaded dragon and cat) It was then that I realized my role had shifted.
It is tough to accept that shift, I didn't sleep the 8 hours I knew he had to drive in the snow, but with the shift, we keep that to ourselves. I now know that this is what comes with parenting, we give up our winter coats for them to be warm. Not to gain accolades, but because it is what we do.
Until next time, Love is letting go.
P.S. I have one more to go .....
