The officail moment when you realize your child has created their own life.

                                                          

      I was not a woman who had a biological clock. I said to myself, if I dont have kids by 35 I was fine. God had other plans. I met the father of my children. Crazy enough, 6 months later we were pregnant! You know, I actually told him when we met, "I dont think I can get pregnant." Neither here, nor there, I have two incredible young men now. I am grateful for it all. 

     It was 2 years ago that my oldest son met his girlfriend, she is amazing. The connection they have, and the love for one another is something every mother wants for her son. With that comes vurying levels of detachment, for a mom. The first is knowing that your life has shifted, as a mom. The girlfriend moves in as the woman in their life. Some moms have a very hard time with this, there are even movies about it, LOL. As a "conscious mom" I have not wanted to be the " movie mom" if that makes any sense at all. You eye up the girlfriends mom, thankfully  she is pretty awesome. The relationship is going strong, you are so happy that your son has met someone that actually means something to them. They are dating, still living with you.

 The movement changes, they are moving away, excited to create a life together. Now you know at this point it is about support, and encouragement. It wasn't until this very weekend when I realized I was still hanging on to my "child" but he is a young man. Cameron said, " Mom, I need to get home to my family (meaning his girlfriend, breaded dragon and cat) It was then that I realized my role had shifted. 

It is tough to accept that shift, I didn't sleep the 8 hours I knew he had to drive in the snow, but with the shift, we keep that to ourselves. I now know that this is what comes with parenting, we give up our winter coats for them to be warm. Not to gain accolades, but because it is what we do. 

Until next time, Love is letting go. 

P.S. I have one more to go .....

 What am I afraid of?

Loving. I don’t think I have a real grasp on that. I listen to all the love songs, read the poetry of those who have felt it, deep. I thought I had it once. I have not really let anyone in since then. Why? 

I ask myself, will it happen again? Letting God lead the way. Release the control, fear. On the other side of fear is love. I can’t seem to get there. There is a couple sitting next to me on the plane. They are on the way to seal the last details of there wedding. Their energy feels like they have only been together for moments, it has been 8 years. We live to find that energy. 

We must love ourselves, before we can be loved, They say. Did I love myself when I first felt love? What is different now. I am grown, love my career, two amazing young men. I feel grounded in me, what is the hold up? I don’t have a problem going on a first date, what I long for is wanting a second one. People say, I don’t mind being by myself. I have been speaking that to myself for years. Lies. Maybe I need to change my mantra. 

I welcome you in, I am open to your love, thank you for loving me. 

Much love ️ until next time.

 No Expectations 

What if we lived our life with no expectations? No expectations of anything or anyone. I believe we would be living in the moment of each experience. 

We need to know our lane, that clear path. How to act, if you will. Society doesn’t encourage living in the moment. Everything is mapped out. Movies have a rhythm and presentations have a flow. I understand structure, but what about balance? What about embracing people right where they are? 

 There is freedom in sharing a love so free, with no expectations and no labels. There is only ease and passion. Normally I try to figure things out, we are human after all, but the energy within this connection will not allow me to. It is the craziest thing ever, yet it is the most peaceful existence. 

There is freedom within peace. When we set expectations on people there is no room for freedom. There is a pressure to perform. It truly brings humans closer together. Expectations push us away. 

I feel like a lot of us go through life like wounded animals. Peaking our heads out to make sure it is okay. Did I do that the right way? Did I say something wrong? Is that what they “expected?” It gives me anxiety typing it. 

I will leave you with this. The next time you engage with someone, a lover, a friend, or family, just come to them with love. Ask them how their heart is, then listen. No expectations, only love. 

Much love, ️ until next time. 

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THE LOST FILES.

 I sat, going through the scrap book of my mom and dads musical journey. A journey I only heard about. I felt lost, and cheated out of the knowing. What if this love would have lasted here on earth? Would I be different? I couldnt help feeling like it was my fault. I was born, so there for both of your journeys shifted.

Our journey is about the story. It makes us stronger and more resilient. In all honesty, I am tired of being stronger and resilient. I long for the ease and strength from another. Many come to us with the belief that they can fulfill this. The truth is, they come to us with their story and need for fulfillment. It has nothing to do with us. How do we bring together two humans, each with their own story, and be as one? 

The answer is complex. What I know to be true is, acceptance. Acceptance of each other, as we are. No judgement. No expectations, only love and communication. The secret sauce to making a beautiful roux. Maybe then we won’t feel so lost. Maybe then we shift together, instead of apart. Until next time ♥️ so much love. 

Leaving the nest.

I am sitting on a plane heading home from teaching a class, and thoughts go through my head about how I am going to respond on Wednesday when my son is sworn into the Navy, and leaves for boot camp. Mom’s and their sons. This is the first time he will be away from me since birth. I know all the sensible things, this is so good for him and his future, I am so proud of him, he will come out of this better on so many levels. It doesn’t make it any easier to say good bye.

This is part of the circle of life, we know our children will leave, shoot, if we were to be honest, there were moments when they were growing up we were like, Hmmm, when do they go on their own. LOL. When that day comes, there is an empty feeling that comes over you. For the past 20 years I have been living with them in mind. Everything I do, every move I make, every grocery I buy, everything has been centered around my amazing sons.

What do we do with the empty nest? I seriously never thought I would feel this way, or say empty nest, but it is. I understand what it means now. Well, almost, there is still one in the nest yet 😊 and I am grateful for that. I can’t even think about that day, when he leaves. So, what goals do we set? How do we take care of that space we now have?  What do we do for ourselves? Some would say, Cassie, you are already so busy! Yes, I do keep myself busy that way, but what they don’t know is, Cameron and I have coffee every morning, he is the one I call when I need something done, he is the one that comes and sits on my bed and just hangs with me while I am doing my makeup. The little things, which are really very big things.

I trust God will guide him, watch over him and he will feel my love, always. I will now settle into creating more memories with my last one in the nest daily. Focus on the now, and not when it is his turn to fly. I will watch Cameron from afar continue to grow as the incredible young man he is and say prayers of gratitude for the life I have been given with these young men. Many blessings and love to the moms out there nudging their birds out of the nest, yet wanting to grab a feather when the time comes for them to fly. We know there is peace in release. Fly my son, the nest will always be here.

Until nest time, much love …

The 6 month HRT update!!

Well I am very tardy with this information of my HRT journey!! But let me tell you, it has saved my life. I had my first pellets placed in as my birthday present to myself on June 26th( my bday) now I am not sure if you remember, but my levels were all way low. As a woman our testosterone level sound be at 200 and mine was 2 ....what!!!! Yes, no sex drive, tired, anxiety brother the list goes on. Also my estrogen, progesterone and my thyroid were all just as low. I really had no idea how bad I felt until I started with HRT.

It took me about a week to Acclimate, I went from having almost nothing, to this surge of hormones coming back to normal. You have to remember , I haven’t had my period since 2014, so all the things like , bloating , sore breasts, and tired. All the normal PMS stuff was now showing up. I was like wait a minute this is not what I signed up for ...lol. I called the Denver Bio Health and they reassured me , again, that all that was normal but to let them know if I felt worse. It was literally a day after that phone call I woke up feeling like a million bucks!! I slept through the night with no night sweats, I had energy, I wanted sex (that is a little dangerous lol) I felt sexy again, No hot flashes, anxiety gone.  My body shifted physically, bloating was gone, My life was back. They literally saved my life .

I am about to go in for my third round on the 18th, normally the pellets last 3-4 months for some, I am one of the women that at 2 1/2 months my night sweats coming back are the first sign I need to make my appointment. I can tell you that I will never go without it. The beautiful thing about where I go is they are so attentive to each person individually. They are taking your blood work on the regular to make sure your levels are where they need to be. They check in on you to make sure you have all supplements. I have been singing there praises for the last 5 months and a couple of my girlfriends actually went and got their levels checked and they were low! (Their boyfriends can thank me later )

Taking the time for you, realizing that you don’t have to feel that way. There is something that can give you your life back!! Don’t wait like I did, they are saying that vitamin D they are treating like a hormone now and if it is low it can cause health issues. Ladies and men please don’t sit on it and feel awful, go in and get your blood work done at a place that actually just specializes in this. They are attentive to YOUR NEEDS, your levels and they are compounded just for you!

As always sweet friends , until next time and much love ️

Natural Bio Health
5350 S. Roslyn St. #450
Greenwood Village, CO. 80111
720-480-4068

The Awakening

June 26th, 2018. I turned 51, and made a choice. I made a choice to shift, shift me, how I feel and see things. My birthday gift to myself, having the pellets put in and start HRT at Denver Bio Health. I also did something else really big for me, I quit drinking. Now it is not like I drank every night, passing out kind of drinking, but when I would drink I just wanted to keep going. I enjoyed having a glass of wine in the evening, hanging out with friends. It seems like gatherings include that most of the time. They say everything in moderation right? Well sometimes how we are made, does not work that way.

I shared with you when I went in for my appointment to go over my blood work, well what I did not share was one of my liver enzyme numbers was 2 points above the normal. Sonia Mookherjea, the PA said not to be to concerned, she also shared with me what might cause this increase, and that we will watch it. I believe God nudges us, he gives us a heads up. That was my heads up, it was very concerning for me. Alcoholism runs in my family, my mom, grandpa and I am sure there were more. So that was my nudge to say, no more. Life is about moderation, for me alcohol is not one of them. I have to walk away from it, and you know what it feels great! It is that timing thing again, it is time. I have been sitting in when I think about it, what are the triggers that take me back to it. The decision to take this step was one of the best Birthday gifts I could have given myself.

Now for the second gift, I told you I would share the step by step of the HRT with you. I started progesterone and thyroid meds a couple days before I had the estrogen and testosterone pellets put in. I immediately started sleeping through the night because of the progesterone, it was amazing. I also started taken on my own Vitamin D, and will be receiving a prescription from her for that this week. Now when I say prescription I don't mean synthetic, everything is made just for me and where I am low in what category. All natural. You know Suzanne Somers has been talking about this for years, she has also written tons of books too. The pellets are the size of rice, and go in the fatty part of your bum. They numb your bum, make a slice about 1 1/2 inches and place them in. I did not feel a thing and it took about 5 minutes. I have waited a week to share this with you, just to see how I am feeling. I feel like my body is like WOW, what is happening here. It has been 4 years since I have had a period. That means that my all my levels have been low for a long time. The doctor said it will take a little bit for my body to get use to have the levels back to "normal" again.

"The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about" I am choosing to share with you my story, because we all have the ability to rewrite it at anytime. Until next time, much love.

Natural Bio Health
5350 S. Roslyn St. Suite 450
Greenwood Village, Co. 80111
720-482-4068

The Results!

I have never been so excited for a doctor appointment in my LIFE! As I drove to the appointment, I was asking myself, why it took me so long to finally do this? Yes, last week I said it was about timing, well it truly is. Have you ever gotten so frustrated with someone because they would not listen to you? Those who have kids will relate, right? One thing I have learned in this life, and being on this planet for 50 years, is all we need to do is love. We can only take care of us. Our journey is about how WE move through it.

 Hormone Therapy has been around since the 1930's. When the issues and side effects started to arise from synthetic hormones, doctors looked into alternatives, for that I am grateful. The team at the Natural Bio Health Clinic have been so thorough, and knowledgeable. I sat down with Sonia Mookherjea PA, to go over my blood work. It was so detailed, she explained every line, what every number meant. Getting into the levels and how being to low or high effects our whole body, mind and spirit. I had clarity and answers to everything I have been going through, so intensely over these past 4 years. They will make a pellet that is just for me and my needs of lack. You can also do creams, it is not as direct and takes a little longer to feel the change. I have chosen to do the pellets because I am ready to feel better. I go in next week to have them put in. There will be a follow up in 6 weeks for more blood work to see how it is all connecting with my body. I will share with you what it is like to have this done, and also my journey on how I am feeling.

I guess the biggest thing I am feeling right now is empowered. The time has finally come to get back to me. I am also, just now, really happy I made the decision to clean up the eating. I know a lot of you who have already been on this path can understand. As we know to be true, food is huge on this journey also. Remember, when someone comes to you sharing what they are going through, don't get frustrated if they do not make moves, just love them through their journey. You have to know, their timing will come, and they will remember that you loved them no matter what space they were in. Until next time, much love!

Well, it was finally time. You know I believe it is all about timing, seriously, everything. We may not see it, but it is. Trust me, start looking at things that way. When something does just not move or go as fast, or you get side tracked, that is because it is not the right timing.  My friend posted his testimony on social media, now for a guy to talk about his hormones,  lack of this and that, and to have results! What! OK, I am ready. When the student is ready, the teacher will come. So here I am in the waiting room, and might I add, no waiting was to be had. Love that. The Doctor was confident, relaxed and content. That may sound weird, but it is like I could feel, she was doing her passion.

We chatted for a bit, answered questions , shared what was going on with me. She knew exactly what I was going to share, because it is all the same. It is not anything new, but it is ignored, swept under the rug, excused. We try to ignore it, or better yet they try to give us a medication to mask it. Finally I got to a point that I could no longer feel this way. I was ready to feel like myself again. I wanted to get control of the night sweats, anxiety, slowed metabolism, very little sex drive, sleepless nights, hot flashes, mood swings, I could go on.

After she explained what the program was about at the Natural Bio Heath Clinic, I asked her what made you get into this? Her answer was exactly what I felt, she said," I have a passion for the natural way to health, finding preventative solutions to health in a natural way." BOOM! If we have passion, it will come to fruition. They drew my blood and I will go back in a week to have a something created just for me and my bodies needs now. The cool thing is they keep track of you, you are checked on the regular because our body changes, and so will the bio health.

Next time I check in will be after my blood work and I start the hormone pellets. I am going to share everything, I will be honest with you. I am also starting a program of food elimination to heal the gut in this journey, I will share that too. Taking care of you, it seems like we learn this later in life, but it is all about timing....right.

Well it has been awhile. I have been busy doing life....interesting. I come from a place of what's next? I feel like I have been in this place for awhile, trying to talk myself into just being right here. Needing to know the how, the when, the time frame, blah blah blah. So exhausting. The Universe, God, Source, can not take you there when you are so caught up in the HOW! Why is it so hard for us to trust that it is already done. Staying present, really just enjoying what is in front of us.

You all know my boys are pretty enlightened, well I was having a conversation with Nolin the other night. He was sharing with me just this topic and telling me how he does it. Sigh....He said he has his "big picture" his future reality, I like that, and their are stairs leading to it. he tackles one stair at a time, each day is a stair. Wow. My son. He said mom you taught me this. I looked at him and paused. He said, why is it so hard for you? Holy cow.

God gives us gifts everyday, everywhere, in all corners. Sometimes those little nuggets are under our nose, but we are so busy trying to figure out the How, when where and why we can miss out. Don't sweat the small stuff. Take a moment to sit with someone who is right in front of you everyday and really listen to their heart, ask them questions, share stories, just be present. Until next time (It wont be so long, lol) Much love. Have a safe Halloween everyone!!

Sitting right where you are.

When do just accept where we are? When do we stop trying to change what is just perfect for us? I have been listening to a lot of Abraham Hicks, The Law Of Attraction. The feeling, giving yourself permission to feel good. Paying attention to what does not feel good. We really can have anything we want, really. No joke! I remember sitting and watching Greta Van Susteren on Fox one night and saying to I am going to get on a plane to Appleton and am going to sit next to her and tell her that my mom Use to catch up with your dad at the local Supper Club.. I could actually FEEL it, that it was going to happen. I was on my way home to close up some things and I walked on the plane looking for my seat and who am I sitting next to...Greta. Seriously.

I had this idea of what I thought I was suppose to do, I was suppose to do all this stuff right now in my career, create more, make so many changes. I finally realized I am doing all that right now with these amazing kids I have, I am supporting them, I am there for them so they can sore, so they can achieve exactly what they want. This is where I need to be, here for them. I have created a life so that I can witness them growing leaps and bounds. We want our kids to do better, Take the good and let go of stuff that does not serve them. They are my greatest teacher.

Realizing this has been so freeing, to know that what I am doing right here right now is exactly where I need to be, the best feeling in the world! So as I say, I FEEL free, this is what I am talking about. Embrace what is in the moment, for when we do whatever God has in store for us, in the Vortex, we will receive. Everything you want is right there for you, but first we must love where we are sitting right now. Until next time, much love.

Men-O-Pause....

And I am having a hot flash as I type and just pulled a chopstick out of the kitchen drawer to get my hair off my neck. I understand why woman cut their hair off as we mature...why does it start at the back of the neck?! Anyway. This thing called Menopause; The definition is the ending of your cycle. That's it, that is all it says. For real. Oh my goodness and I don't even know where to begin. One thing I know for sure is I get why my mom was the way she was. Kinda crazy.

Night sweats, hot flashes, anxiety, memory loss, short temper, emotional, indecisive, weight gain, metabolism slows down, sex drive slows down, and on and on. Oh and our kids are going through puberty also. I am glad I have boys. No one can really warn you about what you are going to go through and it just starts to happen, maybe you start with night sweats, then you have some anxiety. A Little crabby here and their you think nothing of it..PMS you blame it on, Then it comes more often, having a hard time being around a lot of people? Wake up at 3 AM almost every night and can not fall back to sleep? Does everything your partner does drive you crazy? Do you cry...at the craziest times?! seriously. OMG Windows rolled down in the middle of winter.

We do have to give some applause to the people in our lives that are around us all the time. The hormone struggle, to do it natural or to break down and get some hormones. I did my Perimenopause all natural, I just went into to Menopause in January. Only 48 and full on Menopause, sheez. I may have to break down and ask for help. It may save someones life, lol!!

So here is what I have learned. Drinking in moderation is best, cutting out a lot of sugar helps, exercise keeps you feeling better about eveything, especially because for some their can be weight gain. Meditaion has really helped with the anxiety. I think that has been the hardest thing for me. Remember my sweet friends if you need something to move you through this ask, that has also been hard for me. I am not a pill taker, part of the anxiety, but I would rather not be miserable anymore. Until next time. Much love

Sometimes we need to forget what WAS familiar.

Read that header again, Sometimes we need to forget what was familiar. April, my trainer said this to me in conversation. I had to put it in my phone because that is so simple but yet can be so challenging. It plays out in so many parts of our life. Eating habits, sleeping patterns, relationships, etc. What does it take for that to sink in? How long does it take?

I have been working with April for 2 weeks now. I am having to retrain my brain to forget what was familiar... again. I have thought a lot aboiut the mind piece of weight loss. The impact the weight loss has on you; not only visually, but mentally. If we don't tend to the mental part, we sabotage the visual. Let me break that down. I lost 80lbs. I look very different to eveyone, but to me I have only lost maybe 20 visually. My mind still sees me at the same weight. How do we get the real us in our head? Visually AND menatlly?! I will let you knowwhen I get there.

This is why I work with April. April holds me accountable for my mind and knows that she can easily help the visual. Real is important to me and April is that. She has some great tips too !!
Nurition Tip: Remeber that water is essential for weight loss! Not only does drinking plenty of water help you lose weight, it also gives you more energy, strength and ambition for your workouts. The recommended daily consumption of water is .5 ounces per pound of body weight. So an average 150 lb. person should drink 75 ounces of water daily for optimal performance.
Fitness Tip; Your fitness goal should looked at as a journey, not a destination. You did not gain the weight in a week, so you will not lose it in a week. Each day, each workout is a chance to marvel over your progress. Admire you determination to stay the course, to really dig into the very heart of who you are. This is a journey! A fantastic one. You wont reach your goals in a week, so relax, just take the first step into your own journey and move forward everyday.

So if what we are doing does not serve us in a healthy way...it is time to forget what WAS familiar. Bring the mind to the visual, the present. Bring the mind to who we are now without the old thoughts. The feeling that one more walking lunge is exactly what I need!!!! Check out www.ascent-fitness.com Until next time. Much love.

The beauty in a life passing on.

The outside of her house was immaculate; the inside was full of fear, organized chaos and not letting go. Let's just say my mom would have needed a couple credit cards for the baggage. After my mom passed, being the only child, I was to take a look into what she had left behind. You could say; I really got to know my mom and what a gift it was with a tremendous amount of healing.

The house description is such a perfect metaphor for the appearance of my mom. Always put together from head to toe, but on the inside she was packed full of stuff. My childhood was rocky, lets just leave it at that. You can say I overcame a lot. For that I am am grateful. Up until my 30's I was really a victim of my youth and what my mother had put me through. I say it that way because it feels like that in the mind of a victim. One day in a counseling session, my counselor looked at me and asked me why I was such a victim. I responded with a list of things my mother "did" to me. She just shook her head and said; are you going to keep that for the rest of your life, or are you going to forgive her and start living? She saved my life that day.

The sweetest gift in that was being able to accept my mom for who she was just as she was. The day she passed away I held no anger or resentment only love for her ...the INSIDE of her. When I started the journey of cleaning out a house that she could not and had not lived in for 10 years I Met my mother from the inside out. Her fear brought out the OCD and hoarding disorder. I called it "An archaeological dig". The things on top were from the last year living there all the way down to her birth. I really could go on and on about everything she kept to how many of the same things she had, but the real gift was I learned how much she loved me, which I had once had doubts because of actions.

Let go. Move on. Love. We miss out on so much when we hang on to STUFF. Get to know your parents, love them just as they are. from the inside out. If we don't know better, we don't do better. Know better. Until next time. Much love.

Feeling no need.

So When you finally get to that space when you are semi comfortable in this human suit. The moment when you begin to realize that the things that use to feel so big are really silly. I actually think about the things I use to worry about and shake my head. I have my 48th birthday coming up, 2 years until 50, and I have some goals set. With another decade coming, I feel a major shift with it and it is exciting. I have come to know me in the silence; sometimes it was forced silence. In it I let go of the fear. The unknown, the control, The anxiety, the worry. I had a need to fix it, whatever IT was. I wanted it all to be ok. Well sometimes OK is not OK. Sometimes we need to not be OK.

Are you a fixer? Do you like it all to be a "certain" way? You are going to drive yourself crazy. Another thing I learned about myself is you can not control the response of someone else. All you can do is let them respond, take it in. Take a moment to acknowledge what they are saying. I have found we are backed up with our past. I will explain...here comes another theory. So! You have heard the term "baggage" right?! We all have it. It just depends on if you are checking in at the airport with a carry on or you need a major credit card to pay for you "bags". Think about it. Like attracts like. When we get to a place where we can move about the cabin freely, we really want to attract someone who can do the same thing.

So, don't feel the need to be right, don't feel the need to fix it, don't feel the need to be defensive. Let go of the fear and just be. Be the amazing human you were created to be. Lead with love. Ask for help, embrace you as you. Go out to dinner by yourself and put your phone away, take in those around you in your own silence. You are amazing just as you are. I am grateful for each one of you in your human suits! You shine!!!! Until next time, much love.

Did he really just send me a picture of his....

I heard my text chime go off, picked up my phone and there it was. Have not even met yet and there it was. Shoot. Now I am not knocking what others do, but why before you even meet does it go there?  Are we that lost? What happen to the process of dating, the courtship? Why does that have to be old school? How about talking on the phone? Meeting in person BEFORE we start sending parts of our body?

So before I really began to find my grounding in who I really am and what I really want, I played into all that. Insecurity, word of the day. Feeling like I was not enough. We make silly decision when we are so uncertain of ourself. So what does it take to LOVE who we are? Letting go  of all the chatter in our ear. The old story, tapes, our past etc. What we think about we bring about, for real!! I am sure some of you have read, or have seen the movie, The Secret. Funny because it is not a secret. How about, Change your thoughts, change your life or The book, The Power of Positive thinking. All saying the same thing. So why don't we hop on the train? Why is it so hard to just be positive and happy with who and where we are right now? How about meeting yourself right where you are?

Once we settle into loving and respecting ourself only then can we attract what God wants for us. Get out of your own way. Right?! Let go, relax, breath. Life is pretty darn amazing. About 3 years ago I started seeing random hearts everywhere, it opened my eyes to the fact that there is so much beauty and love in the littlest things, and in places that you would not even normally notice. I started posting them on Facebook. A Really cool thing happened, other people started noticing hearts too and sending me pictures. So AWESOME. I am putting together a book with all of them. That is why we are I here, I believe, to share and pass on love by setting an example in the little things.

Dont settle, you know in your heart what you need. Be true to you. Love you. Dont be so hard on YOU. Ask for what you need. Lead with love. Listen to your insides, that inner voice. I call it a God whisper. Call it what you will, we all have it, TRUST  it. Then most of all share that love and compassion with everyone. We all need it. Until next time, much love.

Forgiveness is the place of peace.

So, what really triggers my next blog is what comes up more than once. As I sit here looking out my windows with an amazing view of the sunset and a full view of the mountain landscape, I sigh. Just moments ago meeting my neighbor across the street , for the first time, he recently moved back in to the house because of his divorce. This was obviously not his choice, which I gathered through our conversation. What is it? what happens? I know on my end and can only reference that. I have had comments and am getting friends thanking me for for the insight of the blog. What is hard to hear is that this thing called divorce is happening so much. 

My ex and I have worked consciously to get to a place where we are not the issue anymore. Our children are in the front line. Believe me it was really rough the first 3 years. I prayed everday for both of us to let our children be greater than our own egos and issues. I have so many stories on being a survivor of something that I did not think would happen, even though I asked for the divorce. When the dust clears and we are left with our selfs, then comes the question, who am I now? Where do I go from here? How do my children recover? How do I recover? 

Forgiveness. The first thing I would like to share is Please do not speak poorly about the other parent in front of your kids. This action creates nothing good or positive. Second, don't use your kids as pawns and pit them against one another. PLEASE. You made a choice together to be adults and bring them into the world, act like it. Third, forgive each other. Look At what you can do, to do things different. You can not change anyone but yourself, stay focused on that. Lead with love. Last, don't beat yourself up, be kind to you. You are going to need to be there for your children and then you will find they will be there for you. Until next time. Much love.

We're going to PUMP..YOU UP!!!

Welcome to cassiedoesblogging HEALTH. So if you remember a couple of blogs back, I said I had gained 20 lbs. back of the 80 that I lost with the ever amazing menopause. Well about 2 months back I ran into a friend of mine that I have not seen in at least 10 years, April Sharrock. April Co-owns Ascent Fitness 4697 E. Evans Ave. Denver.

April and I decided that she is going to train me and I am going to blog/brag about how amazing she is!! I am very excited. Every week I will share my progress and she will share a excersise tip and a nutrition tip, something to look forward to. So there is this really cool machine called the InfrafitX I will have all the details on it next week. April said it gets rid of CELLULITE! You know I am going to be in that everyday.

So here are your tips for this week:
Health tip: If you suffer from a sluggish Thyroid, and even if you dont, you can benefit from adding certain foods in your diet that are rich in essential Nutrients. These foods, like seafood, sunflower seeds, shrimp, seaweed, and turkey not only will help with the production of the thyroid horomone, but will also optimize the thyroid function.

Fitness Tip:
Running short on time? Maybe your motivation has slowed down? Don't skip your workout! Instead pick three excersises and do three sets of 20 of the three you chose. This way you are still moving, and heck it may even motivate you to keep on moving!!
 
So I am really looking forward to sharing with you how things move along!! April and I are also putting together a promotion to share with you in a couple of weeks. Check out all the things Ascent Fitness has to offer. www.ascent-fitness.com or you can call 303-759-5140. Until next week. Much love.

I am in my 30's, I am single and I don't have kids...

So this is an interesting conversation in my salon. I had 3 woman in the same day chatting about this. When something happens more than once for me in the same day I am curious, so here I am and it is the topic. Now ladies, I can sympathize but I can not empathize because I was married and having babies at 31. I remember never really having a biological clock ticking in my body to have kids. If I did not have kids by 35 I was totally fine.

I know there is a comment box below this Blog and I would love to hear from you ladies (hint hint) So, I am coming at you with another theory. We have changed as woman, on so many levels. This change can be a postive and can be challanging for us and for the guys out there. I am going to touch  this subject as PC as possible... Nah, that is not me. So my theory begins, we as woman have certain things in us that are just in us because we are woman. Men have the same things. God made us each a certain way..most of us. As time as gone forward we have evolved as humans so have the rolls changed. Men are staying home and woman are working, woman are in higher paying rolls, etc. you get where I am going. With these shifts and changes woman start expecting more and stop settling for average. Now guys I am not saying you are average, but this means more pressure on you to really step up.

So there is one thing ladies that I need to share, men need attention. Yes we need it to, but it is really important to let them know how much you appreciate what they do for you and the family. Just trust me. If we neglect this it goes south. Whatever your choice of who you chose to love the, Bottom line is, dont take each other for granted, remind each other how amazing they are!! Life is to short. Another book I highly recommend is The 5 Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to your Mate By Gary D. Chapman. Until next time, much love.

I have a theory...ok I have a few theories.

What do we ALWAYS say is the most important thing in a relationship....? Well mine is communication. So my theory begins here. I learned a lot from my divorce. Through our experiences we hopefully walk away with something. There are always postive things and of course the challenges.

I like to call this "The Sock on the Pile" When we first meet the love of our life, partner, etc. eveything is amazing. He/she snores, it is ok. They leave the toilet seat up, it is ok. They are kinda messy, it is ok. You get where I am going. I can "fix" that. It will change once we get married, I don't mind picking up after them I love them. Now I have just mentioned the obvious things. Silly things really. I have not even touched on bigger things, things that in the end when not talked about WILL lead to divorce or a very unhealthy situation. This is where the "Sock on the Pile" comes in.

Fast forward mmmm maybe 2 years. You are living together, married. The honeymoon phase, as some refer to it, has faded. Remember when you were first getting to know each other, how you talked about communication being so important? Well this is when the break down begins. We let something go that bothers us over and over and over. Never talking about or sharing how we feel. We let it " pile up" until that last sock is thrown on top of the pile and that is when you lose it. Now it has nothing to do with that sock at all, it has all to do with the fact that at the bottom of the pile, under all that stuff is the root of why you are really angry.

I want to  leave you with what I have learned through my experience. Knowing who you are, what you want; limits, desires, boundaries and not being afraid to ask for what you need, that is a recipe for success. Accept someone for who they are, don't try to or think you can change them. A really great book that I share with friends is Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Gerald Jampolsky. A very easy read. Until tomorrow, much love.